Who Experiences Much Pain During Breakup?

There would be several answers to this question. In general, the feminists would say that girls are much wounded after a painful breakup. On the contrary, when we ask believers of Masculism, they will say that they are, most of the times, severely injured. Although they are in pain, they prefer not to broadcast it because they somehow protect their image as MEN.

Both sides have their own reception. But personally I believe that when good couple goes to a breakup, BOTH parties are in pain and in sorrow whether one accepts it or not.

But when we dwell to  the question: Who experiences much pain during breakup? I think he or she is the person, who invests, loves, and dedicates himself or herself more in the relationship.

But how could we identify this person in a relationship?

Knowing one who invests, loves and dedicates more in a relationship is a difficult task because both parties will say that they become the best persons that they can be in a relationship. I think no one will say that he or she gives less in their partnership. It is tough act to measure the effort of a person to stay and reciprocate the feeling that the partner gives.

What is the importance of a breakup?

People need to have a break in everything and anything they experience. Relationship breakup sometimes gives us an avenue to assess and appreciate more ourselves especially when we are stressed out in the partnership. Although there’s significance in a breakup, I still discourage partners to have it as their last resort. 

Breakup is not an easy phase to experience. Sometimes, it is considered as a nightmare in a series of fairy-tale-dreams. Although it is a nightmare, a bit positive effect of this won’t be set aside—peace of mind even just for a while.

When do we need to choose breakup as a choice?

When we go into a relationship, we better think that the person that we choose to be with would be the best for us—a found true love.  This has been true to everybody who finds her Romeo or his Juliet. This is also one of the reasons why declaring a break is difficult. There are ways on how to save a certain relationship. These ways may vary from time to time and might depend on the situations. Probably, you have experienced one or two of these ways that’s why your relationship with your loved one is still kicking. BUT, if for example, you have exerted all your effort to save the relationship and you even hurt yourself to save your love but still did not work, think twice.

My dear, love is a two-way interaction. You must not the only one working it out. You are considered “partner” because both of you are considered HELPMATES.  Both of you must give effort to sustain your “sparks” with each other. But if you have used all ways of saving your relationship and at the end they don’t work and [you think that] there’s no way out, then Breakup would be the last resort. [If you think that this action would be the most ideal to do], I suggest that you pray. You offer your emotion to the Lord. He may not be physically present but I believe you will experience His presence during this time. He has ways on how to make you feel relieved. I believe that’s the best way before you say: I am quitting!

All the best,

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